If you define your happiness based on a relationship then you should nominate yourself for succor of the year!  You are most likely to smother the object of your affection than anything else.  I’ve got a friend that seems to have lost all common sense over a female.  He’s set himself up for failure because he defines happiness based on a relationship.  She informed him that he’s smothering her and he backed off and is whimpering over it.  Anytime you put someone other than yourself in charge of your happiness, you are destined to fail.  That person cannot be made responsible for YOUR happiness and expect that person to succeed, it’s madness!

It doesn’t matter how many times I tell him that a relationship is not all of that and a bag of oreos.  A relationship is hard work and NOT GUARANTEED Happiness.  There are days when you are pissed at each other and those are the times that define the relationship.  It’s never 100% good times forever more.  There are bad times that will test the relationship and the outcome of those times will say whether or not the relationship will continue.  If you both grow together, the relationship will continue.  If not, it was never meant to be.

He swears god has told him that she’s the one on multiple occassions.  I’ve been tempted to ask if he’s sure it wasn’t the devil because we’ve had this conversation about multiple girls.  LOL.  He reminds me a lot of guys that were stationed with me in Okinawa.  They’d go to the Philippines and be ready to marry a different girl each time.  I have no doubt once he gets older and wiser that his ideas about love will change.  Eventually, he will understand that a woman in need equals a whole lotta trouble.  Don’t get me wrong they’re still the best thing going, the trick is to find one that isn’t a whole lotta trouble.  Over the long haul, he’ll eventually understand that where he’s going leads to nothing but straight up trouble in a relationship.

He’s had to learn some hard lessons though like it’s NEVER a good idea to introduce new girlfriend to old girlfriend.   That plainly does not work out well in the long run.  Especially when old girlfriend is the one who ran away from him and then decides to contact him several months after he’s started over with someone else.

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